How Do We Talk to Our Children About Antisemitism?
Antisemitism is a part of the Jewish experience and existence in this world.
Just as we have the "stranger danger" talk in order to prepare our kids about the reality of kidnappers and other safety precautions, addressing the reality of antisemitism is critical.
Here’s how we can approach this important conversation with our children.
Check in with Yourself First
Before we even begin to approach our children, it’s essential to ensure that we are in a healthy, grounded, and calm place. Our children take cues from us, and if we are anxious or distressed, they will pick up on that energy. Take the time to process your own feelings and find a balanced state of mind. This preparation will help you present the information in a way that is reassuring and constructive.
Approaching Older Children
When speaking with older children, it’s important to acknowledge your own feelings about antisemitism and to role model and demonstrate positive ways to channel these feelings. Show them how to cope with difficult emotions constructively. This can include discussing your feelings openly, finding productive outlets like activism or education, and emphasizing the importance of community support. Be open and honest with your children; they will recognize and appreciate authenticity.
Secondly, you know your child best. Answering questions is dependent on age and maturity of the particular child.
Remember it is OK and normal to not have all the answers.
If you need time to research the answer, tell your child you will find the answer and get back to them soon, and follow through.
Teach Them Our History
More than anything, our children need to be taught our history, our accomplishments, and to have pride in their faith, tradition, and culture. Let them know that persecution has been a part of our legacy, and yet we have not only survived but thrived. Our story is one of triumph and overcoming hardship.
Emphasize Jewish Pride
Armoring our children with Jewish pride is one of the best ways to help them overcome the emotional impact of antisemitism. Highlight the resilience and achievements of Jewish people throughout history. Share stories of notable Jewish figures, cultural milestones, and the contributions of Jewish communities to the world. This not only instills a sense of pride but also provides them with a strong identity that can withstand external negativity.
Encourage Critical Thinking
Teach your children to think critically about the information they receive. Help them understand the difference between facts and opinions, and guide them on how to research and verify information. This skill will help them navigate antisemitic rhetoric and misinformation more effectively.
Promote Empathy and Allyship
Encourage your children to empathize with others who face discrimination and to stand up against any form of bigotry, not just antisemitism. Promoting empathy and allyship helps build a more inclusive and supportive community. If you believe your child is old enough to understand this, consider explaining the historical experience of other persecuted groups, making the point that together with these other groups we have even greater ability to stand for the rights of all human beings. Draw parallels between the experiences of these other groups and the Jewish experience whenever possible.
Role-Playing Scenarios
Consider role-playing different scenarios with your children to help them practice how to respond to antisemitic comments or situations. This can provide them with a sense of preparedness and confidence in handling real-life encounters.
Involve Community and Education
Engage with your local Jewish community and educational resources. Participating in community events, attending cultural programs, and being involved in Jewish education can strengthen your children's connection to their identity and provide a support network.
Foster Open Dialogue
Create an environment at home where your children feel comfortable discussing their experiences and concerns. Regular check-ins and open dialogue can help them process their feelings and know that they are not alone in dealing with antisemitism.
Provide Historical Context
When discussing antisemitism, provide historical context to help your children understand its origins and evolution. This can include lessons on significant events like the Holocaust, as well as ongoing issues and challenges faced by Jewish communities around the world.
Highlight Positive Contributions
In addition to discussing the challenges, emphasize the positive contributions of Jewish people to various fields such as science, art, literature, and social justice. This helps balance the narrative and reinforces a sense of pride and accomplishment.
Encourage Advocacy and Action
Teach your children the importance of advocating for themselves and others. Encourage them to participate in initiatives that combat hate and promote tolerance. This could involve joining relevant organizations, participating in awareness campaigns, or even engaging in conversations at school. This could also be a teachable moment as far as teaching your children empathy for others.
Building a Strong Foundation
By teaching our children about our history and fostering a sense of pride in their identity, we equip them with the tools they need to face antisemitism with resilience and confidence. Encourage open discussions, answer their questions honestly, and provide a safe space for them to express their feelings.
Remember, the goal is not just to prepare them for the harsh realities of the world but to empower them to navigate it with strength, pride, and a deep sense of connection to their heritage. By doing so, we ensure that the legacy of Jewish perseverance and triumph continues to inspire future generations.